Until the age of 28, Marie Calvert had only ever had sex
with one man, her husband Barry. Then she took up swinging and
everything
changed. The body count went from 1 to 3,000. In fact, she claims that
one night, she slept with 14 men. Marie, now 63, tells her epic story
below...
It was the night I slept with 14 men that I first started to try to
work out how many partners I’ve been with. The truth is, I’m not sure.
My conservative estimate is about 100 guys a year for more than three
decades. I’m 63 now and I’ve slowed down a little – but only a little.
Why do I do it? Having sex isn’t something I do for a living, but it is
my passion. It’s the most enjoyable, exhilarating, satisfying way to
spend your time. Some women like yoga, some like badminton. I like
carnality.
I am actually married. Barry and I have been together since I was 15 –
we wed when I was 19, have two grandchildren, and he’s my world. But
neither of us puts sex on a pedestal. We see it for what it is: separate
from love. It’s not natural to stick with one sexual partner for 60
years. Life is about experimenting and experiencing, and that’s what we
do. Barry goes with other women. I don’t get jealous because I know he
loves me. Until the age of 28, I’d only been with him and we had a
terrific sex life, but one day he brought home a swingers’ magazine he’d
picked up from a workmate. He sort of joked we should try it; I told
him not to be daft, and he never mentioned it again.
But I kept looking at the mag and imagining how fun it might be.
Eventually I told him we should give it a go. He looked like a kid at
Christmas. The first couple we met – through the listings in that
magazine – were university lecturers in their 40s, and I still remember
driving to their home that Friday. Barry stopped the car and said, “Are
we sure about this?” We were so nervous, but we were also insanely
excited. I said we’d try it once and see how it went. And it went…
joyously.
As soon as we met them I was flirting with the guy. John was
sophisticated and handsome, and over dinner there was this intense
chemistry. Afterwards, there were a few minutes when just he and I were
in the living room, and I thought it was now or never so I kissed him,
and that was that. By the time Barry came in with John’s wife, we were
otherwise engaged. I remember looking at Barry’s face and seeing a big
smile come over it; I knew everything would be fine, and that life had
changed for ever.
We became committed swingers, spending weekends meeting up with
couples or going to parties to swap partners. Suddenly everything was
exciting. You’d be at work, and you’d think about what you were up to
that evening and it sent a shiver down your spine. Some couples – like
John and his wife – would become close friends, even when the sex
stopped. Others you’d see only once. The night I slept with 14 men was
at a swingers’ party in Manchester. I remember driving there feeling
almost uncontrollably lustful. The next day I felt achy, in that lovely
way, like when you’ve been to the gym.
In 1997, we decided to open a swingers’ club in Sheffield.
We were fed up with work and wanted to do something we were passionate
about. It’s still thriving today. We never have sex during opening hours
– it’s our business and we’re professional about it. But, of course,
when the place shuts, we’ve got an entire club full of facilities – and
an ever-growing circle of open-minded couples – to play with. It’s not
all been perfect, of course. Not every lover is attentive. I remember in
my 40s going with an 18-year-old, just to see what it would be like.
Quick was the answer.
We’re safety-conscious and I’ve never felt in any danger. Barry is
normally in the same room or not far away. I’ve recently had a knee
operation, which means I’m walking with a stick, so I’m taking it easy. I
had only three lovers last year. I still have the same sex drive but
I’m more relaxed now. I’m not someone who’s ever going to dress like a
woman half her age just to get attention. But if guys still find me
attractive – well, why not? People ask if we have any regrets and we do –
we wish we’d found that mag five or six years earlier.
Culled from
UK Guardian
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